Healing the Father Wound
Your trust in
action, success, and the outer world often comes from your father’s energy.
Your father may or may
not have been present.
But the way he showed up—or didn’t—
likely shaped how you view masculinity, authority, achievement, and boundaries.
When I was a child, my
father was always busy.
He barely looked at me.
That gave me the impression that I didn’t matter.
Later, I became someone who overachieved and sought approval constantly.
One day in a somatic
healing session, I broke down in tears.
The teacher asked, “What are you grieving?”
I replied, “I always thought I didn’t need him. But I’ve been waiting for him
all along.”
It hit me:
I just wanted him to see me—and to say I was enough.
Healing the Father
Wound Is Not Blaming
It’s not about
accusing, but about understanding.
We are no longer children waiting to be rescued.
But we can choose to meet that inner child with compassion.
On a quiet night,
revisit a moment from childhood—
His departing figure, his harsh tone, or his silence.
Then gently say:
“Thank you for
being the way you were.
You taught me strength, courage, and how to forgive.”
A Healing Practice:
Write a letter to your
father—whether he’s alive or not.
Say all the things you never got to say.
For example:
“Dad, I always thought
you didn’t care.
But what I really wanted was for you to be proud of me.
Today, I choose not to wait for your approval.
I give it to myself.
Thank you for giving me life.
I’ll live it fully—with my own light.”
Burn it, bury it, or
keep it.
The power isn’t in his reply—
It’s in the fact that you finally see yourself.
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