Friday, 20 June 2025

Grounded Healing & Integration Series – Chapter 4

 


Healing the Mother Wound

Your relationship with your mother is the first mirror you ever looked into.

Almost no one can speak about their mother without emotion.
Some have tears, some have anger, some go silent.
Whether or not we realize it, the energy of our mother shapes how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world.

During a spiritual session, I once saw the energy thread between me and my mother.
It looked like a thorny vine wrapped around my heart.
I didn’t lack love for her—I just kept trying to “be the good child” instead of being real.
And that pattern played out everywhere else:

💔 I feared speaking my truth.
💔 I took care of others but neglected myself.
💔 I longed for validation and visibility.

Then I had a dream:
In it, we were back in our old kitchen.
She was cooking, and I stood quietly by the door.
Finally, I said, “Mom, I’m really tired.”
She turned around and softly said, “I know.”

I woke up crying. In that moment, I forgave myself.
And I saw her clearly—not as “mother,” but as a woman who once needed love too.

She wasn’t perfect.
But she gave me life, and loved me the best she could.


A Simple Practice:

In a quiet space, close your eyes and whisper to your inner mother:

“I release the expectations.
I release the blame.
We are both new at being mother and daughter.
Thank you. I am ready to truly see you now.”

You don’t need to reconcile with your real mother right away.
But you can begin by creating a gentle space in your heart.
Sometimes, healing isn’t about “fixing”—
It’s simply about being understood.


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