"I’ve Forgiven Them, So Why Does It Still Hurt?" — Healing Is Not Suppression, But Gentle Witnessing
“I’ve already forgiven
them.”
“It’s been years, why am I dreaming about it again?”
“Am I not generous enough? Why does it still hurt?”
Many people on the
healing path wonder:
If I’ve already “forgiven,” why do I still feel pain?
Often, it’s because
you may have skipped the part where you fully felt it.
We’re taught to
forgive, to be the bigger person, to move on quickly.
But before that, there’s a deeper need that must be met — to be seen, heard,
and acknowledged.
Forgiveness doesn’t
mean suppressing your emotions.
It doesn’t mean pushing down your anger, sadness, grief, or shame, and forcing
yourself to be “okay.”
True healing happens
when you allow yourself to:
- Be angry
- Cry
- Resent
- Ache…
Without judgment.
Just gently witnessing it all.
It’s like finally
embracing that younger, hurting part of you — telling them, “I see you. I hear
you. That really hurt.”
And only then does
your inner self begin to trust you enough to let go of the pain it’s
been holding.
Forgiveness is a fruit
that ripens naturally.
It’s not a checkbox you can tick overnight.
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