Friday, 20 June 2025

Grounded Healing & Integration Series – Chapter 22

 


Why Do I Keep Getting Hurt in the Same Relationship Patterns? — Understanding the Power of the "Relational Script"

“Why did I end up with another controlling partner?”
“Why do I keep attracting emotionally unavailable people?”
“I changed the person, but the pain feels exactly the same.”

It may not be about “choosing the wrong person,” but rather, an unconscious relational script playing out within you.

This script often stems from your early relationships — especially with your parents or caregivers. As children, we learned:

  • I must give to feel worthy
  • Being quiet means I’m good
  • Expressing emotions gets me punished
  • Love is something I must earn
  • Being ignored is normal…

So, without realizing it, we carry these “rules” into adult relationships, unconsciously recreating similar dynamics — trying to prove we can get it right “this time,” or finally “be loved.”

But your soul didn’t come to replay the same painful story. It came to see the script — and choose to stop the cycle.

Awareness is the beginning of healing.

  • Every time you realize, “This wasn’t my fault.”
  • Every time you pause and say, “I don’t have to keep betraying myself.”
  • Every time you declare, “I want a different kind of relationship.”

…you’re rewriting the script. And your reality will begin to shift accordingly.

You’re not failing at love. You’re awakening to your power to choose.

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