Grounded Healing & Integration Series – Chapter 18

 

Our Fear of Happiness

Have you ever noticed—
When things finally go well,
You start to feel anxious?
As if… you’re afraid to be too happy?

Because a voice in your subconscious whispers:
“If it’s too good, something might go wrong.”
“How long will this happiness last?”
“Will I have to pay for this later?”

This is a defense we’ve inherited for generations:
Afraid to lose, we choose not to fully receive;
Afraid to fall, we never truly fly.

But true healing
Is not only about healing pain,
It’s about healing our distrust of joy.

You are worthy of happiness—
Of having it freely, without needing to pay.
You are worthy of peace,
Without the need to brace for loss.

You don’t need pain to prove your value.
You don’t need sadness to feel safe.

Healing also means
Learning to let joy enter your body
Without tightening your nerves in defense.

You can smile and trust:
This joy is yours.
This wholeness is not a trap—
It’s a homecoming.