Chapter 5 | “The New Language of Love”

 

The World That Is Real

It took me a long time to admit:
I had been living in a world that wasn’t real.

A world with rules like:
Be smart. Be useful. Be productive. Be logical.
Be liked. Be admired. Be approved.
Don’t be “too sensitive.”
Don’t “overthink.”
And whatever you do—don’t be “too naïve.”

So I followed the rules.
I learned, I performed, I planned, I endured, I competed, I pleased.

Until one day, that world crumbled.
Through loss. Through a goodbye. Through illness.
Or maybe just one quiet night when everything fell apart.

And I realized—I didn’t know who I was.
The person I tried so hard to become… wasn’t me.

So I started again.
I began to feel, to listen, to breathe differently.

And I found out—my soul never asked me to be perfect.
It just wanted me to be real.

To feel honestly. To speak truthfully.
To cry, to laugh—not for show, but for real.
Even if it was messy. Even if it didn’t make sense.

The real world doesn’t appear when you perform your best.
It appears when you stop performing.

When you stop trying to be who they expect—
That’s when you finally meet the one you really are.

And from that moment on,
You begin to see the world as it truly is:
Always gentle.
Always waiting.
Always ready to welcome you home.