Grounded Healing & Integration Series – Chapter 35

 

Healing Is Not About Becoming Better, But Becoming Real

Many people, once they begin their healing journey,
Often believe: I need to become a better person—
More stable, more gentle, more loving.

So we try to overcome negative emotions,
Suppress anger, avoid sadness, deny confusion—
Thinking this is what “progress” looks like.

But true healing is not about becoming better.
It’s about becoming real.

Your real self has both light and shadow.
It smiles—and it cries.
Sometimes it’s clear—sometimes it’s confused.
It’s imperfect, yet alive, feeling, and human.

Healing is not about banishing the “bad” parts,
But about embracing the hurt, the suppressed, the forgotten you.

You don’t need to become who others expect you to be.
You only need to slowly, gently, dare to become who you truly are.

That… is when the soul finally begins to come home.