Grounded Healing & Integration Series – Chapter 20

 

 

Why Do I Always Pull Back at the Critical Moment? — Moving Through Subconscious Self-Sabotage

“I was so close to making it, but I gave up in the end.”
“I always seem to pull back at the most important moment.”
“Am I just unlucky? Why do I always fall short?”

Have you ever said these words to yourself?

For many people on the healing path, the biggest challenge isn’t a lack of ability or external support — it’s that inner block that shows up at the final step.

At the critical moment, you suddenly fall ill, get distracted, hesitate, or feel an unexpected wave of “I don’t deserve this.” If we only blame ourselves for not being motivated enough, we may miss the real gateway:

Are you still carrying subconscious beliefs that don’t belong to you?

▸ “I shouldn’t succeed too much — others might not like it.”
▸ “I don’t deserve full happiness.”
▸ “If I really fly, no one will love me.”

These beliefs often originate in childhood, cultural conditioning, or early trauma. They act like an invisible wall, setting an upper limit on what you allow yourself to receive. The moment you near that limit, your subconscious pulls you back — trying to “keep you safe.”

But here’s the truth: these beliefs are expired.

You no longer need to shrink yourself to be accepted. You don’t have to trade freedom for safety.

To move through this wall, start by seeing it, and gently tell your inner child:

“Dear one, we don’t need to be afraid of success anymore. We can fly — and still be loved.”

Here’s a practice you can try:

1. When you’re about to move forward but hesitate, pause and write down your first fear.
2. Ask: Whose voice is this? Where did it come from?
3. Say to the fear: “Thank you for trying to protect me. But now, I choose a new path.”

Self-sabotage isn’t your enemy — it was once your survival wisdom. Now, it’s time to upgrade it.